Everyone Grieves Differently.

Children perceive death differently depending on their developmental stage and their concepts of death. It is important to tune into the individual needs of each child, providing a safe and supportive space for them to express their feelings.  Be honest with children and use concrete language and developmentally appropriate language. What is not told to them gives them room to make up their own stories about the situations regarding death. The healing process for grief is ongoing and unpredictable. When grieving and/or holding space for someone that is grieving, it is important to remember self-care to assist in nourishing your heart.

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Child and Therapist
  • Be prepared to answer questions and be TRUTHFUL AND HONEST

  • Give children choices

  • Validate feelings and encourage putting emotions into words

  • Engage in memory making and memory discussions

  • Remain available

  • Allow children to play, talk and recreate 

  • Maintain routine as much as possible

  • Reach out to local support groups

  • Seek professional help

  • Use concrete words such as “death or died” instead of “pass away”